I hope you all had a good weekend...mine was great but too short (when aren't they?).
Well I have no real news, medically speaking, about Cassie. Her headache has been bouncing around a 7-8 which is good considering she isn't on any real strong medications. I still haven't heard back about that spinal tap so I have to call them back today.
The good news is Cassie has decided to go to school for 1 class. This was discussed at our last meeting with the school and I told them if she felt up to it she could do it and we decided the week after vacation would be a good start. She'll go back tomorrow because I wanted to let the school know she was going to come back (because they have to make arrangements for that to happen and I didn't want to make everything hectic and confusing for both Cassie and the school). Of course the class is Early Childhood Development...which Cassie did not pick, it was picked for her...so she's not really looking forward to it but I hope she does well because it will be one less class we have to worry about her being tutored in.
Chris and I had a talk with her last night (well I didn't really talk in the beginning...I yelled...but mostly at Chris) about school and her headache. My husband just can't seem to wrap his mind around the fact that she has a continuous, bad headache. It's hurtful to Cassie that he "doesn't believe" her, but then she talked to him about everything she's been feeling and he said he understood it better. I'll believe it when he doesn't hound her about school. But really, the one thing that stuck with me about the whole conversation is something I haven't talked about yet because it is difficult but if I'm going to be honest with getting my frustrations out I really should discuss it...friends.
Before Cassie's problems pulled her out of school she had quite a lot of friends...it felt like a hundred. Now, she has a few. She has some who she talks to via Facebook to texting (one of them moved to Nashua South), and one friend she talks to quite often and she comes over the house about once every other week (she lives near by). She got together with a group of friends one day during vacation and two of them slept over...and I felt like I was pimping her out when I dropped them off at their houses, yelling "she's available anytime! Always home, come over anytime you want!!" Geez, that's sad...
Everyone tells me that the attention span of a teen is that of a gnat but I didn't want to believe them...especially girls that Cassie has known since elementary school, or even younger. Friends that she called close, or even best friends seem to have vanished. It's difficult to watch your daughter cry about feeling abandoned and wondering why her friends don't talk to her...and I have to explain to her that these things happen. That we've all been through tough times with friends...that friends, especially when they go to another school and have their own group of friends, grow apart. I also believe it wouldn't be so noticeable to her if she did still have a social life...but being stuck at home and reading all her Facebook friends having a life has really taken a toll on her. It just sucks...
I always thank my lucky stars that at least she has a group of friends, from my oldest daughter, and that although they are waaaaaaaay older they don't do anything to put my daughter in harm's way and I can trust them....I always tell them if it wasn't for them I don't know what Cassie would have done...so thank you, you know who you are.
Alright, this is making me all weepy so I'm going to end it with a positive story. Cassie got her shoes for semi yesterday...her dad bought them for her. They are open-toe, lace up ankle boots...they don't, to me, go with the dress...but I can't see her wearing anything else.
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